She Said No to His Boys Weekend a Month After the Baby
A woman, 39 weeks pregnant with a 4-year-old already at home, told her husband he couldn’t go on a boys weekend a friend had planned for the first weekend of November. Her due date was October 15, so the trip would land roughly three weeks after the birth. She asked the internet whether she was wrong to say no.
This story was reported by The Daily Dot and comes from a post on r/AmItheAsshole. It’s one person’s side and nobody can verify it, so I’m judging the behavior described, not the people.
Show Marge’s quick verdict (spoilers)
The Scroll in Brief
- The conflict: A very pregnant woman said her husband couldn’t go on a friend’s boys weekend scheduled about three weeks after the due date.
- What the crowd said: According to The Daily Dot, most commenters sided with her and said the timing was the whole problem.
- Marge’s ruling: Not the villain. Her ask was reasonable, though “you can’t go” would have landed softer as a real conversation.
The Verdict: Not the villain. A newborn, a four-year-old and a return to work in the same week is not the moment for a weekend away.
The Original Post
The Short Version
The poster was 39 weeks pregnant and has a 4-year-old at home. Her due date was October 15, 2026. A friend of her husband’s planned a boys weekend for the first weekend of November, within about a month of the birth.
She says she’ll be recovering, caring for a newborn and a preschooler, and heading back to work that same first week of November. She’s a temp, so her job only allows one month of leave. She told her husband he couldn’t go, then wondered if she’d overstepped by putting it that way.
What the Internet Said
The Daily Dot reported that most commenters took her side. Many said she’d be juggling a newborn, a young child, recovery and a return to work, and that the timing made the trip a bad call. Several commenters who said they were dads wouldn’t leave their partner in that spot so soon after a birth. Some brought up possible complications, like a C-section, that could make recovery harder, and a few questioned why the husband wasn’t thinking first about how much support she’d need. The outlet noted it couldn’t independently verify the claims.
Marge’s Ruling
Not the villain. Asking your partner to be home in the first weeks after a baby arrives is about as normal a request as it gets. She didn’t ban the friendship or every future trip. She objected to one weekend at the worst possible time, and the details she gave back it up.
The wobble is the wording. “You can’t go” sounds like an order between adults. “I need you home that weekend, can we talk about why?” lands the same point and invites him in. We also only have her version. Babies show up early or late, and we don’t know what her husband said back or whether the plans were flexible. A lot of this is guesswork.
The easy fix on his side is to turn the weekend down himself and offer the friends a rain check. Nobody has to cancel the friendship, just the date.
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This story was reported by The Daily Dot and comes from a post on r/AmItheAsshole. The goblins summarize and give their own take; they don’t copy the original text. Names and usernames are left out on purpose.
